Has it ever occurred to you that people are addicted to being offended?
Honestly I see it as a big part of our culture, and not politically specific but rather a trend across party lines.
It was Dr. Wayne dyer who testified years ago that most people he encountered were actively looking for things to be offended by in their daily lives. I’d say that’s pretty accurate, from my perspective.
So, what does it really mean to be offended? Why are we hooked on it? And who cares if we are?
Being offended can mean two things
- An idea that has become part of our core identity is being threatened. And that really ticks us off, and probably subconsciously freaks us out.
- We aren’t actually secure and solid in our beliefs and therefore are attached to feeling supported by others in upholding what we stand for. We crave approval.
And I don’t know that anyone can say this for sure, but it’s my guess that we are hooked on being offended because it’s what we know. Simple as that.
It’s part of how we all learned to relate to people and function in society. It’s easy to get trapped in destructive cycles that have no real rhyme or good reason, other than providing a rush.
For instance, there are two types of people who read my blog: people who connect with my message and seek alternatives in healing, and people who like being offended by me. Ha!
And it’s the first group that will resonate with the need to stop being so offended all the time.
The issue with being offended is that it’s an act of both selfishness and self sabotage. When we feel offended, we are focused on ourselves. We’re focusing not inward, but outward on protecting the fragile outer layer of ourselves that we pretend is so strong.
Usually in this emotional state we either go about our day with judgement as fuel, or we name our opponents and pick them apart, tear them down with inflammatory insults, and lift ourselves higher.
Whereas if we approached someone with an understanding heart, looking to share why we believe something, because we care about them, it’s almost impossible to not change at least a few hearts.
And the reality is this: we can choose to begin looking inward, to the purest part of our heart where Spirit talks, to find a peace that leaves us unattached to the rantings of the world.
Through learned stillness, through breathwork and prayer, we can do this.
We can learn to let people carry on with their daily lives, wishing them nothing but wellness, and peace. This is an important part of our personal peace and wellness.
As the saying goes, “As within, so without”. In other words, feelings that you harbor for others, is what manifests in you. For better health, or for worse.
We can develop a deeper, less judgmental love for the people around us, and this is what our communities, families, and strangers deeply need. This is the difficult daily workout – a great calling that we can choose to answer.
Or…we can continue to log onto Facebook looking for an easy reason to be pissed. It’s up to each of us.
Free to be healthy, free to choose whatever path calls to us. I choose health, freedom, and the path of true love. If you’re reading this, I think you probably work at that too.
Hugs’n health, Ashley.