You’re trying to stop eating, aren’t you?
You’ve got this contradiction going on because you want to stop eating and spending your valuable time in front of the TV. Because you feel ashamed of yourself! God forbid anyone ever know you like this.
But mostly…you don’t want to stop. I mean you want to want to stop, but you just can’t make it over the hump.
Am I right or am I right?
First of all, give yourself a break sister ( or brother 😉 ).
It’s probably something to do with anxiety and fatigue. This stuff is rooted in the the biochemical processes of your body, so we can do a lot to start supporting you there.
But let’s also look at the thought processes at work here.
Starting with the reason why most of us don’t ever make the change. In the words of Lisa Nichols:
Most of us are too attached to who we’ve been to go after who we want to become.
We’re too attached to our Netflix accounts, our evening food binges, and even the catatonic state we’re left in after it’s all said and done. I mean come on – it’s the only fun we have some days!
Or at least that’s me. Three kids to raise well and taxi around, household to keep, two dogs to care for me.
Insert your personal addiction escape here:___________.
When I used to contemplate quitting my food addiction, I believed with all my mind that I never could.
But that’s crazy because I’m actually pretty smart and strong, and physically capable of not stumbling into the kitchen and subsequently making a heaping plate of nachos to take to bed.
So when I really got to thinking about it – praying and meditating about it – I realized the actual question my heart had been carrying:
“Without all the food what’s sweet about life? Where’s the joy? What’s the point?”
Wow. A revelation.
I really couldn’t answer those questions, but I knew that if I didn’t find joy in my current circumstances I wanted to create it.
I knew I didn’t want to live for food anymore.
So we’re attached to the comfort of our addictions. The momentary shelter they provide us from a wearied life. And it’s a hard sell to ask your pleasure-seeking brain to give that up.
We’re also attached to our identity.
Tony Robbins says that we will do anything to make sure our actions align with our identity – functional or not – because identity means more to us than just about anything.
Because the constancy and stability of knowing who we are makes us feel safe, and certain.
When identity is questioned, everything becomes unhinged and that scares the hell out of us.
Tell me I’m wrong. Tell me you’re not as deathly afraid of the unknown as every other human out there😂
And yes, this can apply to your addictions too! Even the ones you talk about wanting to break.
If your identity is wrapped up in being ‘lazy’ or ‘fat’ or ‘the kind of person who doesn’t care about health stuff’ there’s a good chance you’ve stacked the odds for change against yourself.
I truly believe that on a subconscious level, you may be sabotaging yourself because you don’t believe you are the type of person who can or should ever be different.
That’s true to an extent. Be who you are! In all amazing creation.
But ask yourself, when it comes to food addiction, are you selling yourself short? Are to holding on to an old identity so tightly that you can’t grasp a new and healthier one?